In this blog, we are continuing along the theme of success by ‘Never Giving Up’. This concept is often easier said than done, however, it is vital for your success.
If it doesn’t work
These are basic principles that you can apply in business any time you feel it’s not worth going on.
Remember – Never giving up doesn’t mean keeping on doing the same thing when it doesn’t work. It means keeping on working towards your goal no matter what and learning from your failures and getting smarter and better each time.
So, if you are in business remember to shake it off and step up out of the “well” that we find ourselves in sometimes, whether business or financial.
We need to stop beating up on ourselves. Everyone has a past that they would like to change but that can’t be done so it should be left at that. It is human nature to fail. But the trick according to the highly regarded speaker and motivator Charles Donoghue is not to make the same mistake twice and to learn from that experience. He said you should turn your weaknesses and failings into strengths.
He related this story –
A hunter was walking through the woods one day on his way back to camp. He heard a rustling in the bushes and, as he looked, a lion leapt towards him. He turned and fired two quick shots but missed the lion on both occasions. Fortunately for the hunter, the lion leapt over him. The hunter turned and ran as fast as he could back to camp, but all night he lay awake thinking that he must improve his shooting at short range. The next morning he was throwing cans into the air and practising his shots, when he heard a rustling close by. He parted the bushes to find the same lion practising short jumps.
The moral of this story? – Work on your weaknesses until they become your strengths and don’t make the same mistake twice.
Work hard and commit
We’ve all heard that well-worn statement from our dads as we were growing up – “No one ever died of hard work”.
There’s a story told about Bill Brit who was one of the most successful distributors in the Amway organisation. The television people did a feature story on Amway and during the interview they asked Mr Brit to tell them the secret of his success. He replied, “There is no secret. I simply showed the plan to 1,200 people. Around 900 said no and only 300 signed up. Out of those 300 only 85 did anything at all, the rest fell by the wayside. Out of the 85 only 35 were serious and out of those 35, 11 made me a millionaire”.
Bill Brit learned what it was to work hard and to never give up.
According to Richard Poe of “Wave Three”, while starting Amway, Richard De Vos and Jay Van Andle, some of America’s richest people, recruited over 500 people. Everyone dropped out except for 5 and those 5 people built Amway to the $7 billion plus business that it is today.
Can you see? Your success is directly related to the degree to which you are willing to commit yourself and work hard.
An admirer once told a very successful businessman that he was a very very lucky man. The businessman turned and quietly remarked, “You’re right, I am lucky. But I have found that the harder I worked the luckier I got.”
Change how you feel
You can change in an instant how you behave by changing your focus and how you feel about yourself.
At one time when Napoleon Hill was interviewing Thomas Edison he asked him “What have you got to say about the fact that you failed thousands of times in your attempts to create a light bulb?” Edison responded, “I’ve never failed even once, but I have had thousands of learning experiments that didn’t work.”
How you see yourself will affect you confidence.
Confidence in yourself will get you through the toughest times. To go back or to stop is never an option. Looking back on all your perceived failures and missed opportunities will only create frustration and a sense of loss and hopelessness. Anyway, who wants to look back when there are better options ahead? See yourself as succeeding. By doing that you will develop self-confidence. Remember you can do almost anything you want, providing it is not in conflict with the rights of others. Work on your self-image and self-esteem. High self-esteem, which is really the ability to feel good about yourself, is an important ingredient if you are to succeed in business or anything else.
How do you see yourself?
Charles Donoghue also recalls listening to Roseanne La Flamme who, at the age of 3, was caught in the blades of her father’s combine harvester. She said “It caught me and spat me out in pieces and my legs were severed below the knees. My right arm was cut off at the elbow and my left hand had three fingers missing.”
She went on to explain how for many years she was possessed by depression and hated her body. Her vision of herself deprived her of normal life. It was only after she finally freed herself from insecurity and inhibition that this woman regained her self-confidence. She learned that it was not her physical appearance that was the problem but, rather, her vision of herself – that was her biggest handicap.
So it is with us – it depends on how we see ourselves.
There is an old Scottish poem, which says
“Every single blade of glass and every flake of snow
is just a wee bit different there’s no two alike you know
From something small like grains of sand to each gigantic star
Each were made with this in mind to be just what they are
How foolish then to imitate, how useless to pretend
When each of us comes from a mind whose ideas never end
There’ll only be just one of me to show what I can do
And you should likewise be quite proud that there’s only one of you.”
You can change in an instant how you are by changing your focus and reviewing how you feel about yourself.
Touch of the Master
Charles Swindol, the well-known writer once related this story about never quitting.
Egnace Jan Paderewski, the famous composer/pianist, was schedule to appear and perform at a great concert hall in America. It was an evening to remember – black tuxedos and long evening dresses, a high society extravaganza. Present in the audience that evening was a mother with her fidgety 9-year-old son. Weary of waiting, he squirmed constantly in his seat. His mother was in the hope that her son would be encouraged to practice piano if he could just hear the immortal Paderewski at the keyboard. So – against his wishes – he had come.
As she turned to talk with friends, her son could stay seated no longer. He slipped away from her side, strangely drawn to the ebony concerts Grand Steinway piano and its leather stool on the huge stage flooded with blinding lights. Without much notice from the sophisticated audience, the boy sat down and the stool, staring wide eyed at the black and white keys. He placed his small trembling fingers in the right location and began to play “Chopsticks”. The roar of the crowd was hushed as hundreds of frowning faces pointed in his direction. Irritated and embarrassed, they began to shout – “Get that boy away from there” – “Who’d bring that young kid in here?” – “Where’s his mother?” – “Somebody stop him”.
Back stage the master overhead the sounds out front and quickly put together in his mind what was happening. Hurriedly he grabbed his coat and rushed towards the stage. Without one word of announcement he stooped over behind the boy, reached around both sides, and began to improvise a counter melody to harmonise with and enhance Chopsticks. As the two of them played together, Paderewski kept whispering in the boy’s ear – “Keep going. Don’t quit. Keep on playing … Don’t stop … Don’t quit.”
And so it is with us.
There’s nothing you can’t accomplish
“When things aren’t working right on the inside, when our thinking and our feelings are wrong, then we make it absolutely impossible for things to work correctly on the outside?”
Charles Donoghue says that your mind is a powerhouse for good or bad. The choice is yours. Your inner thinking controls your mental attitude. How you look, your body posture, and your breathing demonstrate the way you feel and how you feel – your behaviour is controlled by your belief system. You need to believe that you can do it and then follow through with action. It’s not enough to just try it, because if you don’t believe and only try, it will be followed by failure.
People also fail because they lack direction. You know the saying that if you don’t have a plan of where you are going, how are you going to know when you’ve arrived.
You can have all the energy, optimism and enthusiasm, but if you have no direction you’ll end up with confusion and frustration and failure.
Get rid of your negative thoughts and negative experiences of the past and make a new decision for a new direction. Build your confidence and improve your self-image – that is, improve the picture you have of yourself. Remember, you are twice as good as you really think you are. Throw away fear of failure, fear of success and other disappointments. Fear will disappear when you stop focusing on that which you don’t want to happen and concentrate on that which you do.
The truth of the matter is simply this – “there is nothing you cannot accomplish if you are committed to achieving it and are willing to take massive action to do so”.
There are no failures, only those who didn’t know that they could succeed.
Just get going
In business you don’t have to start off big – just start. Take one day at a time, work through the problems that arise, and stay on top. If you start to feel sorry for yourself, or depression comes over you, just remember that this is only a temporary situation. Think of the blessings and the good things that have happened to you, your business or your family.
So you have two business choices. Be someone or be a no one. How many times have we heard the saying that there are 3 types of people – those that make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who look back on their life and say “What the heck happened?”
Failed before? – So what
Where are you today? If you are not where you would like to be, then change. Change your mindset. Take charge of your life. If you have already failed – so what. You are still worth something. You have amazing potential just waiting to be released. Remember failure is only temporary anyway. Tomorrow’s another day. Nothing is impossible to you in business.
A successful businessperson is not someone who has never failed or never gone into bankruptcy – it is someone who won’t stay down. They get up and carry on. Eventually they’ll win out.
Eventually they’ll make it – if they never quit.
You have amazing potential
– You may have heard the story of the inventor who developed a pin curl clip that made him a fortune. What he had done was to take two little pieces of metal and by a very simple but ingenious method of putting them together, he caused a spring action. It is used today as an instrument to pin curls together for styling women’s hair. What he had done was put time, ingenuity, creativity, expertise, and effort into those two little pieces of metal. From it he made himself a fortune and life easier for women all over the world.
– And what about the man who used to fold the corners of his papers with a slight tear and bend to hold them together for filing? His desire to find a better way resulted in the invention of the paper clip. All he had done was take a little piece of wire about 3 inches long and twisted it into a certain shape. A little piece of wire that you and I would throw away. But he took it and made a paper clip, giving him a fortune and blessing the lives of countless clerks all over the world.
– One of the best stories, however, was about a man who called a soft drink dispensing company years ago when they were still serving drinks from counters at drug stores. He told the executive committee that he had something that would make them a fortune but he wanted $75,000 for it. The story goes that when the entire board of directors met to hear him, he simply walked in and said two words – “bottle it”. From that, it was said; the company went around the world creating a huge business.
Experience, emotions, ideas, wood, lands, beauty, talent, brains, all have one thing in common – potential. Never forget that your life has potential. But striving out with that potential to achieve great things is something that only you can make a decision about. Like the ad says – Just do it.
Recall it again –
“There are no failures, only those who didn’t know that they could succeed”
NEVER GIVE UP – ever…